PERCEPTION
ACTION
CREATING POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS (winning friends)
LEVERAGING THOSE RELATIONSHIPS (influencing people)
How to
win friends
and
influence people
Winning people over (to your way of thinking)
show
respect / sympathy
for people's
desires
opinions
saying "your wrong" to people
talking negatively
when person absent
quietly degrades trust
arguments
winning argument creates a false sense of entitlement
dramatizing your ideas
admitting wrong
emphatically
quickly
seeing from peoples point of view
in friendly way
over
appeal
to noble motives
throw down challenge
get
allow
people
saying
by asking questions
yes!
immediately
feel
are
theirs
suggestions
ideas
Tactically developing as a Leader
consistently
talk about personal mistakes first
before criticizing other
allow people to save face
begin
with
honest appreciation
praise
calling attention to people's mistakes indirectly
ask questions when delegating
avoid
giving direct orders
make people
make people faults seem easy to correct
make people happy to do as you ask
creating followers
always praise slightest/every improvement
use
encouragement
always give people a fine reputation to live to up to
Making people
like you
always
talk about people's
interests
make people feel
important
become
genuinely
interested
in people
remember to
smile (optional)
listen well
encouraging people to speak first often
use person's
name
often
Handling people - Managing Interactions
give
honest
appreciation
put thought into "thank you"
sincere
the quality of being free from pretense, deceit, or hypocrisy.
(no hidden agendas)
don't
condemn
criticize
complain
complaining only influences people who can be controlled by complaining
complaining is a false sense of emplowerment
people become addicted to complaining