Helping an Upset Friend
A method for staying focused and mentally fresh!
After Resolving Conflict:
Resolve and Dissolve
Once you have resolved
said conflict, don't bring
it up again, it will only
renew frustrations!
Discuss how you want to approach conflict
in your friendship!
Talk about ways you can avoid this
happening again.
If the conflict is with you:
After each pomodoro do a 5 minute break! In these 5 minutes, think of/do anything but the task.
You can add your ideas for the 'lightning' breaks: it can be a 5-minute stretching, reading a short article, etc.
Use "I feel" language
so they don't feel that
you're deflecting onto
them.
Do your best to make
your friend feel heard!
If you can, ensure friend it won't
happen again.
How can you fix it?
Find out what you did wrong.
If you do not need to handle it (if the conflict is
with someone else) ;
calm friend down and direct
them towards a positive resolution
Each 25 minute is one 'pomodoro', and it's a 25-minute focused work.
You can write the time of the start and progress on the task.
Let's work on
adjusting our tone for a more positive
interaction!
Let's think of some ways
we can say that better!
Let your body calm before
going to talk to someone else!
Let's get into a good headspace and try to figure out a better way to express ourselves!
Situation: A friend walks up to you at school
and begins to yell at you, what do you
do before responding?
How many Pomodoros you might need? Plan your pomodoros, then choose the task you want to start it with!
Don't get defensive, stay calm!
Decipher if what they are saying is
true or if there may be a miscommunication.
Choose the task you want to start it with!
Listen to what they are saying.
How many Pomodoros you might need?
